The Difference Between Attachment and Love

Love. It’s a word we use so freely that it’s actual meaning can feel quite devoid. What is Love truly?
 
Is Love something that we can give to someone, only to ‘take back’ moments later when they’ve disappointed our expectations?
 
Is Love something we have to earn?
 
Is Love something we inherently are made of?
 
These are the questions I am here to unpack today.
 
In order to anchor this conversation down with something tangible, I will be referencing examples and experiences from my own partnership to illustrate this message.
 
When I say I love you, what do I really mean?
I will love you, as long as you love me?
I will love you, as long as you don’t hurt me?
I will love you, as long as you’re following our rules?
 
When I think of Love in such a disposable way, it feels cheap, fraud and devalued in my eyes. Does Love truly exist under such circumstantial preferences?
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Freelationships: A New, Empowering Relationship Paradigm

COMPLETE FREEDOM & RADICAL SELF EXPRESSION IS POSSIBLE IN THE CONTEXT OF A DEEPLY COMMITTED PARNTERSHIP! And it feels AMAZING! Do you believe me?
 
Freelationship : An intentional union of two people in pursuit of mutual Self-discovery, Personal-Growth and Mission-Driven Purpose. Celebrates & Encourages Authentic Expression, Vulnerability and Fluidity within the committed Union. Recognizes that the constructs of our Partnership will change and evolve as both individuals continue to change and evolve. Nourishes the Life Force of the Union with Badass Communication and Mutual Desire to Mindfully tend to the connection.
 
As my beautiful beau and I have continued to create, redesign and lovingly tend to our Partnership over the last 2 and some years, I’ve been thinking:
I’m not a huge beacon for labels. And yet, as a teacher and leader in the Relationship world, I want to talk about mine & Warren's partnership with clarity in what we...
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How to Avoid Losing Yourself in a Long-Term Partnership

One of the things I see most in my practice as a Relationship Coach is clients who are in a long-term-relationship and begin to feel like they’ve lost themselves in that union over time.
That is, something like: I fell so madly in love with this person, and our lives began to merge. It felt blissful and natural as it happened. As the months or years when on, we merged friend groups, hobbies and moved in together. All the while I’m slowly losing touch with those people, activities passions that make me, ME. And all of a sudden I wake up one day, miles down the relationship road, wondering “Who the Fuck Am I Anymore?”
 
Does this sound familiar to you? Have you ever had an experience like this before?
First of all, I want to note that you are not alone in this. You are not silly, stupid or wrong here. This is a common experience for millions of individuals-- because when we fall in love, we are literally high on drugs (chemicals that get released...
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