Cultivating Roots in Surrendered Based Trust during a time of Chaos & Fear

Dear one, it is in the moments where fear and worry are so accessible that it is the most medicinal to access the part of you that lives in Surrendered Based Trust. 

Surrendered Based Trust: My deep trust in exactly What Is, right now. My trust in whatever the Universe lays in front of me, no matter how different that path is then the plan I had once formed. My unwavering trust in this moment, this experience, this challenge, this opportunity, this feeling.

Surrendered Based Trust is about releasing my attachment to the idea that I know how things “should” be, or that I need to know why anything is happening.

I trust what is happening simply because it is here, right now. This is Surrendered Based Trust.

My journey to cultivating such a deep, unwavering trust in the moment began many months ago: I was on the island of Maui, by myself and me and my partner were experiencing very painful challenges in our relationship. Being so far away from him was so hard, and I...

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The Importance & Role of Safety in Partnership

Safety-- this word is tossed around quite a lot in intimacy and relationship space. And for good reason, Safety is an absolutely crucial puzzle piece to creating and sustaining a thriving, mutual partnership (in my view).
 
What exactly does safety entail though? I feel safe that my partner will not physically abuse me...is that enough? How can me and my partner actually establish a baseline of safety in our union?
 
Safety in Relationship is the knowing that both myself and my partner honor ourselves, each other & our union with compassion, love & respect in every given moment. Safety means that even when we are facing difficult challenges, we still adhere to our mutual agreements around trust, behavior and communication. Safety is the knowing that we have each others back, above having the backs of any outsiders. Safety means US FIRST.
 
What I just described are some of many ways I experience safety in my personal relationships. And the...
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Your Partner is your Sacred Mirror (Shift from Criticism to Calling Forward)

Romantic, Long-Term Love: The most terrifying and enchanted experience of this Life on Earth. And, the entire reason we are here.
 
Why is it that we all desire to be in love?
 
Is it a force so natural and embedded deep within us that it is an honoring of lineage to feel such desire?
 
Is it because the idea of falling in love is rich in the media, displayed as an act of pure bliss and alignment that seems to last forever?
 
Or is it because we are each searching for something, hoping to feel Whole and Complete, in the act of connecting to and loving another person?
 
Here’s the thing so many seem to miss: To Love someone is so much more complex than we’ve allowed ourselves to realize. You see, to truly loving someone means to identify and embrace ALL sides of that person. That means their lightness, their joy, their brilliance and their darkness, their pain, their shadows.
I have developed my own theory on why it is that...
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The Weight of Expectations on your Partnership

With the drastic shift in the stability of relationships over the last 100 years or so, many are left wondering what factors have caused the institution of marriage to crumble at a steady rate of 50%? And furthermore, of those marriages that did stay together, what is the cause for so much disappointment in the relationships that do last?
 
In my studies, research and life experience I have seen many, many factors that contribute to the demise of or the dissatisfaction in relationships. And, there is one specific factor that I see present almost everywhere, which I am going to speak to today.
 
Here’s something I hear frequently from clients and friends in my life: He’s great. He’s attentive and so caring. He’s got a solid job that he is passionate about and can support me when I need him. The sex….is amazing. And he’s so gentle and explorative leading up to it! Our chemistry is undeniable and I enjoy our conversations. BUT,...
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